Sometimes men make some major mistakes while trying to compose a long interesting letter, intended to catch a woman’s attention and make her interested in his personality. If a lady does not like your first letters, most probably she won’t write back, especially if she has other admirers. If you really want to impress a lady, gain her interested in you and win her heart, your letters should be simple, open and merry.

It is wise to be a realist. Nowadays many ladies use dating sites and services, even very young girls. Our ladies are aware of the fact that men who have made up their mind to find a marriage partner will be approaching them on this site, so this is something very appealing to them. They are expecting you to impress them, so you’ll need to gather some skills if you want to find your match.

Generally, appearance is the first thing that men look for, not so much the woman’s age. The latter is very important though, and a man should consider it carefully if he wants to be successful in his search. No matter how mature a young woman might be, the age difference between partners works best when it is not more than ten to fifteen years when the woman is young and the man is older.

Common life priorities, moral values, interests, worldviews – all of these are vital for establishing a strong basis for a happy relationship. Is it possible for two people whose age difference is twenty to thirty years apart to have a successful relationship?  Not usually, all things taken in consideration. It may be interesting for a young woman to communicate with an older man because he has greater experience than a guy her own age… but just think: In fifteen or twenty years, she will look as irresistible and desirable as she does now… she will be full of energy and new ideas.. Will her husband (twenty years older than her) be able to handle that energy and these new ideas? Think about it.

More appropriately, these days it is very acceptable when the man is younger than the woman. This situation works for many reasons, but the main one is that women begin to peak sexually in their mid thirties, and that peak lasts until their mid fifties if they are in happy relationship with passion and romance. Men start to lose virility when they hit fourty, so when you consider those things, it makes sense if the woman is older anyway. It’s sensible for a man in his early thirties to choose a woman in her late thirties or early fourties, so don’t hesitate to contact an older woman if that is what appeals to you.

Before a man starts communicating with a woman he needs to become aware of some golden correspondence rules:

• Do not write long, boring letters which contain all the details of your biography. She’ll be thinking about something else even before reading half of your letter.
• Do not tell her everything about yourself from the beginning. What are you going to talk about in your tenth letter? Moreover, a man should always stay a mystery to a woman, don’t you agree?
• Let her create a certain image of you and then let her wonder about the details of your life and personality.
• Take the first step in everything. It is true that women today are much emancipated but this does not mean that they do not want men to take the initiative and make the first step in a new acquaintance. Australian women are attracted to interesting and decisive men. Almost all women are.
• Do not ask complicated or hard to answer questions. Communication should be easy and pleasant for both of you. Just imagine sitting with this lady in a cafe. What questions would you ask her in such an atmosphere?
• Do not ask twenty questions in one letter. You may scare the lady, making her feel like she’s being interrogated. Put yourself in her shoes.
• Do not disappear. It is a major mistake for a man who has been communicating with a lady to “disappear” (not write) for some time and then drop a few lines, talking about occasional things as if nothing has happened. If a man stops writing without any explanation, a woman considers that he is not interested in her anymore or that he has found another woman. On the other hand though, a woman will not take offence if a man excuses his “absence” beforehand with work or other engagements. But she would most surely get offended if he just leaves for a certain period of time without any explanation. It will take a lot of effort to win her back, if possible at all.
• Do not forget dates. You should remember all important dates (like her Birthday or the Birthday of her child), as well as your anniversaries or the dates of those special events in your relationship.
• Do not forget about compliments and warm words in every letter! This is the main secret for your success in winning the heart of that special woman of yours.:)